June 22

Hello Horse,
I have registered and my name is "Glimmer" I asked the question about my husband's return. Thank you.

June 21
"Will my husband of 40 years return and be happy with us again? "
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Dear Glimmer,

I will post this issue later on at Friend's Forum so Saviola and Aussie and other members can interact with you about your issues.


Meanwhile, let me answer you question about your husband's return. Please find your hexagram below.

I don't know as you didn't mention, why he left you (family). For whatever reason, I am sure that things happen for a purpose. Don't stress too much. Try to avoid this as your hexagram's worry star is increasing. Focus on something else and forget about your husband for a while. You probably have children that need your attention. They deserve to be happy too.

I really am so sorry to tell you Glimmer, your hexagram turned to a 6 strike. Normally when this happens, the answer to your question (depending on the nature of the question) is a NO. So when you asked if your husband will return to you and be happy again with you, the answer is no. Unless the power of this strike is eliminated, the No will be reversed. But after a careful evaluation of the hex, I found no reason why the 6 strike will be eliminated.

I hope you will find yourself with friends forum, you have friends there like saviola and aussie who can help you with your issues by just talking. somethimes you need to vent out and need someone who can listen and give some advice to you about your concerns. Use this forum to interact with them. Who knows, you may be helping others who visit this site with your experience, good or bad.

Cheer Up.

Your friend,

Horse.

Hi Glimmer,

have read your question and Horse's reading for you.

Perhaps you would like to tell us more about yourself and what really happened? We would be glad to lend you our ears and well, try to see if we can help in any way.

As what Horse had said, try not too get too affected by it. You still have a life to carry on, and of course, if you have kids, they will sure need attention too.

Sometimes things may meant to be this way, who knows, other good things may be waiting for you in future?

Feel free to drop by and post here, there will always be friends around you

Saviola

Thanks Sav, any news about Auss? Haven't seen here here for quite a while.

No never seen her recently too..

wonder how she is doing. Hope she is well

Dear Glimmer

I hope that you are doing well, and I am sorry to hear that you are having difficulties with your husband of 40 years.

Please, don't stress too much about your relationship with your husband - I know this is easier said than done. 40 years is a long time to have been together, so I can only begin to imagine how you must be feeling at the moment

One of the first things you will need to do, Glimmer, is get a support group together. What I mean by this is a network of friends and family who you can call upon in times of need - when you are feeling down in the dumps or just need someone to talk to. This is quite important. Having been with your husband for 40 years, you may have come to depend on him for some sort of emotional support - maybe without even realising it. Knowing that you have friends and family that you can call upon will help keep your mind at ease and keep those stress levels down

Another piece of advice, which once again is easier said than done, is try not to blame yourself for your husband leaving. He is big enough and ugly enough to look after himself and to make his own decisions (excuse the term). Sometimes, people just need time apart in order to realise what they have got. However, don't let him string you along. You are a kind, caring person who has feelings and you deserve the best the life has to offer you. If he starts with the mind games, don't respond. I have found that men often try and play mind games with women in order to try and win the "power game" (When will they learn - women can always win if we can be bothered with playing them, the only times men really win the "power game" is when the women just can't be bothered with it all - LOL!).

Glimmer, I don't really know what else to say without knowing your situation. If you find that things start to get stressful, and that you start to feel down in the dumps because of it all, please, let me know. I have some very useful exercises that can help with depression and the like (I am thinking of starting a pyschology course this year ).

Wishing you all the best and hoping to hear from you soon

Auss

Hi Glimmer,

I am new to the forum too and I am also newly divorced. I was only married for a little less than 2 years but it was my first and only marriage and I waited until I was almost 49 years old to do that!

So I have always been an overly cautious person and also I was very content living near my parents and helping to take care of them. I had my own trailer on their property in Oregon and everything was very neat and tidy.... THEN... it all changed and I did not do well in that transition.

During that time I met and married the man I just got divorced from 2 weeks ago. We still live in the same house, separately but it's awful. I would rather not see his face at all. One thing I guess I have to admit to being grateful for is that this divorce is happening as it is with me being able to let go more and more each day.
I don't like the man, that has been a great revelation to me. I thought I was in love with him, but what I wanted was what I 'thought' love was and then when I dug deeper I found what I wanted was security and someone to lean on. There's nothing wrong with wanting a soul mate but this man surely is not mine. I had two very good ones in my past but both have died early in life in accidents, one in a logging accident and another in a car accident.
I felt sorry for myself for a long time over those losses.

But.... maybe you are more lucky than you think that he is gone out of your house. Maybe not out of your life yet but not having to live with him may be a blessing in disguise.

Please lets continue writing because I know its nice to have someone to talk to that is going through the same experiences and maybe we can help each other out along with our friends here in the forum.
it is a nice relief to think that, then feel that long exhale of breath and my gut/heart/soul (in that order ) relaxing.
So lets go out and have a good day,
Sincerely,
Cecilia Santana